Humility and Your Voiceover Business
What the world needs now is something that’s in short order, not only in our daily dealings on the phone, by email or in-person, but especially on the social networks. This ‘something” is vastly overlooked and needs an image makeover. It is humility.
Humility Ain’t Sexy
But humility has a public relations challenge. It’s not as sexy as the popular “humble brag” or the outright braggadocio by those bold souls that air their highest triumphs in any social situation in a constant drumbeat that sucks all the oxygen out of the room. And the room can be the internet, too. It’s self promotion to endless excess. There’s no end in sight. We’re confident and bold, and happy to take the spotlight, oh yea. We’re the voiceover peeps. It’s all show biz, right?
Humility isn’t even as sexy as gratitude, even though it is tied to gratitude and optimism. Humility can effect positive change for the greater good of all in the community. When you don’t have to be always right and have all the answers, relationships are enhanced. And aren’t relationships where social media is really at?
Humility is an outlook that is other-oriented, rather than self focused. When one comes off as having all the answers, or know everything or act like they do, those around them will “check out”. If they don’t really listen they lose their connections to others.
You are Not the Hub of the Universe
In an article I recently read by Patty Onderko she advises, “Humility is realizing that you are not the hub of the universe. ”
CEO Dave Balter writes, “Dig a hole, throw your ego into it, and pour concrete on top. Find humility instead.” Read his tale of almost blowing a $60 million deal due to his own hubris. http://www.inc.com/articles/201106/the-humility-imperative-ceos-keep-your-arrogance-in-check.html
In this Forbes article, Writer David K Williams puts it this way, ” Some of our most significant successes in life and business come from learning from our failures. Our ability to remain accountable, committed, and open to learning from others’ mistakes can often be the difference between quick defeat and long-term success. Humility trumps hubris every time.
The Failure Factor
The big problem about humility is that it’s usually the result of getting knocked down a notch, or experiencing some kind of failure. Nobody wants to look like a failure. Today’s cultural narrative downplays failure and humility and appreciative perspective in favor of “what’s in it for me?” Psychologist Phillip Chard states that “Increasingly, societal messages suggest that unless we get our way and bask in the warm glow of societal affirmation. (“you’re special”), we’ve been screwed”.
What aspiring entrepreneurs and those in voiceover and related show-business types see are the champagne wishes and caviar dreams. Nobody wants to admit failure, even though it takes great strength and courage to admit it. Most just go about living in the world of their Facebook profile, where everything is always going great and they have life all figured out. But that’s not reality. And we let ourselves get sucked in.
There is way too much written about success, and way too little written about failure and its direct connection to humility. If nine out of 10 businesses fail, then why in the world are we not addressing the most important issue that’s staring everyone right in the face? What aspiring entrepreneurs need to know is the failure part because the secret to all success is hidden inside the lessons from the failure.”
A Final thought
We have two ears and one mouth. Yes, I realize that when we talk for a living we want to be heard. But if we just listened a little more, we may just move our businesses forward a little faster. In the words of C.S. Lewis, “Humility is not thinking less of yourself. It’s thinking of yourself less.”